Unlike therapy, when my soul calls out in the dark hours, cooking and gardening don't keep office hours. There's an old R.E.M. song that I can't help but sing when I'm out pulling weeds by the light of the moon, "Though all the feelings that broke through that door/ Just didn't seem to be too real/ The yard is nothing but a fence, the sun just hurts my eyes/ Somewhere it must be time for penitence... Gardening at night..." Brutal cold and whipping winds made gardening impossible Friday night, so instead, I set about baking. Three runs of scones came together as amalgamations of flour, sugar, and half and half. I used my grandmother's cookie cutters to give them shape—candied ginger and coconut diamonds, lemon and cranberry trees, and spicy fruited hearts.
Adorned with a dusting flour—it was after all all-purpose—I curled up on the couch while my scones cooled. The house was warm and smelled of sweetness as the Christmas tree twinkled and the dog on his bed twitched with muffled dreaming barks. It was about this time three years ago that an interventional radiologist was noodling around in my brain's vasculature, weaving a tiny basket of platinum wire into each of three aneurysms. I remember being in the neuro ICU and the nurses there enjoying having an interactive patient—apparently most in the neuro ICU aren't quite so awake and cognizant. I remember having a bit of headache for which they offered me some Tylenol, which didn't quite cut it, so they gave me Vicodin. I remember needing to pee, which given my mobility presented a bit of a quandary as nothing about my glass-walled room's toilet was private, thus a well-placed hovering mom helped to at least moderately preserve my dignity. I remember being given something to eat, which Mom helped feed a tiring me.
Days slipped past, and the next thing I remember is Christmas Eve. My husband and I held Christmas Eve dinner at our new home the first two years we were there. Per tradition from my father's Polish-Czech family, Christmas Eve was the time to gather for a multi-course meal including pea soup, pierogi, and kraut. We cracked walnuts to determine the disposition of the coming year, and all the women were dotted with honey on their forehead to keep them sweet all year long. Though we weren't overly fussy about it, the gathering was still a major to do that brought my family and my husband's family together with two tables for the adults in the dining room and one for the kids in the adjacent living room. I had broken out the inherited family silver, donned an apron, and pan-fried six dozen pierogi. I relished having been transferred the role of kitchen matriarch.
The third year—the aneurysm year—the role was stripped away, as I was allowed to do little post-surgery. There was no large family gathering. There was no formal dinner. My mother and father came over to our house to visit. I sat on the floor by our Christmas tree and scooted presents to Mom, Dad, and my husband. I'd asked for a simple gemstone bracelet, a request which my husband had obliged. There was a book and a CD and a few things from Mom and Dad. And though thankful simply to be alive, I was self-conscious when I noticed a feeling of deflation, of disappointment. What I wanted...what I'd hinted at to the point of being absolutely annoying... what even my friends had nagged my husband about... was a KitchenAid stand mixer. But there were the facts of the matter... the mixers were expensive, and we'd had a less than stellar financial year. And while the KitchenAid made my heart go pitter patter, I had told my husband that we needed to be reasonable, that I knew he would give me anything and everything in the world if he could. I didn't expect to be so disheartened when he actually listened to me.
My husband apologized that I didn't have more gifts to open and then walked away. I continued to sit on the floor and tried not to dwell on my feelings of missing Christmas magic—the surgery, the family dinner foregone, and the predicament of getting—and thereby not getting—exactly what I'd asked for. My mom crumpled up scattered wrapping paper. I heard a door open and close. The wooden floorboards squeaked as they always did as my husband walked back into the living room. He was carrying a big rectangle box and grinning. I blinked, shook my head, and smiled bemusedly. My husband put the box on the floor and said softly, "I think you know what this is." Still blinking, I cocked my head, looked at the wrapped box, and back up at him. He grinned again. I peeled off the paper to find what I'd been coveting—and it was shiny, and it was red.
I was at once thrilled and embarrassed. "Travis...," I said in a small voice thankful yet admonishing. He raised his eyebrows slightly. "I got it on sale the day after Thanksgiving," he said. It turned out that my friend who had done the most cajoling on my behalf actually knew my husband's plan all along. The ruse was a team effort. And it worked. I wasn't allowed to do any cooking yet, so I could only admire my mixer from afar. Yet it was with my husband that I was truly impressed. My husband hadn't just given me a "thing." He had given me something to remember.
It's funny how life is so circular. This Christmas' candied ginger and coconut diamonds, lemon and cranberry trees, and spicy fruited hearts were made based on a recipe from a favorite holiday cookbook I was gifted years before I was married and mixed with the sturdy beater of the stand mixer that never leaves my kitchen counter. So many times that mixer has beaten back bad feelings as well as it beats eggs, but the best reward is the old-fashioned way of finding my way to my husband's heart through his stomach.
This holiday season, I wish everyone joy. I wish everyone magic. I wish everyone a shiny red KitchenAid mixer. But most of all, I wish everyone love.
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